Wednesday, June 17, 2009

The Realities of Living Together

Ms. Benz sent out an email for the W@Wies and N@Wies alike to answer the questions mostly about the aftermath of the wedding. I decided to post my answer here and I'm still thinking if I will submit them for Ms. Benz's approval...hehehe. Those peeps that can come up with the best answers will be lucky to have it publish ;)

Let's get my brain working!....

Q1. What was your major adjustment when you started living together after the wedding?
- That will be living with the in-laws since my husband and I moved into their house where his aunt and younger brother lived. We stayed their for six months after our wedding before moving out on our own. I have to adjust on almost everything because it's different from the household where I'm used to.

Q2. What was the thing you like most/least about it?
- The best thing about it is that I can spend more time with my husband. When we were in a gf-bf stage, we only see each other once a week. My positive reflect on living with my in-laws was I think of it as a chance to get to know my brother-in-law and aunt-in-law and my husband's other relatives who happen to be near that area. I was able to bond with them during special occasions and made a close relationship to some of them.
- The least thing that I don't like is the uncomfortable feeling moving myself around their house and getting bored on our room since I spend most of my time there. In order to entertain myself, I resort to going out on weekends with or without hubby.

Q3. Is there something you wish other married couples had told you beforehand?
- Surprisingly everything was told to me by my friends and relatives who are married. At first, I was still confused on what they meant when they say "Marriage is for the brave souls". After going through major adjustments during our first year of being together (which is not an easy ride, I'm so tempted to turn my back on the promises that I made on our wedding) it all hit me and understand what it's all about. You must be a strong willed person and extend your patience to the limits. That goes for both wife and husband.

Q4. Any tips for other newlyweds living in their new home/with their in laws?
- You have to know respect so that you can be able to do "pakikisama" to the in-laws. Patient and understanding plays an important role to any relationship. Communication and compromise is also one of the ingredients in order to leave with the in-laws or on your own harmoniously.

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